You are a good parent if:
You are teaching your kid about money: how to earn it, save it, invest it and spend it wisely.
You read to your kid or with your kid and set a good example for them when it comes to being seen reading a book.
Your kid sometimes hates you for not letting them do all the things they want to do. That is proof you are doing something right!
You allow your child to fail and feel the pain and consequences of their decisions.
You don’t allow electronics at the dinner table; both theirs AND yours.
You feed your kid healthy meals and make sure they get enough exercise to be fit. And you set a good example by eating healthy and exercising yourself.
You know your kids close friends and know their parents. Remember; people become like those they associate with.
You limit the amount of time they spend in front of the television, playing video games, and playing on the computer.
You hug your kids even after they think they are too old for it.
You make it clear that your love is unconditional but your approval is based on their behavior.
You listen to them, their ideas, thoughts and opinions and then you do the right thing based on what is best for them whether they like it or not. Remember: Parenting is not a democracy, it is an absolute monarchy and you are in charge. Decisions regarding their welfare and what is right and wrong for them are not up for a vote.
You communicate what you expect, show them how to deliver it and then impose consequences when you don’t get it and a reward when you do.
Is this all it takes to be a good parent? No, these are not the only signs you are a good parent. It takes a lot more than this to be a good parent. This is a short list.
If you don’t do all of these, does that make you a bad parent? Only you can answer that one. Look at the results, both short term and long term and decide if you need to make some corrections in your parenting approach.
The goal of any parent should be independence. You should want your child to become completely independent of you and a fully functioning, responsible, productive adult. This list is a good checklist to know if you are on the right track; but there are no guarantees. Sometimes you can do everything right and it still goes wrong. Doing these things will only stack the deck in your favor.
I know some of you will want to argue some of these points and want me to discuss them and defend them and many of you will try to prove me wrong and litter the comments section with “Yeah buts”. Don’t bother. These points are not up for argument. I’ve been there, done it, and can prove every single one of these points in my own life, with my own kids and with tons of affirmations from other parents. If you don’t agree with these, that is fine with me, you have every right to be wrong. I say many things that can be argued with, but not this stuff.
For more of my parenting advice, so you raise a responsible, productive adult, read my best-selling book “Your Kids Are Your Own Fault.” You can get a signed copy on my website at www.larrywinget.com